Infertile Myrtles

[Jeannie Johnston]

Anyone out there childless as a result of infertility?? My husband and I share your pain.

[Sassy]

Oh yeah... 4 years of trying and we are going for IUI (again) on my next cycle.

[Jeannie Johnston]

Hey there. Wanted to check in with you. Any word on how this went?

Sassy said:

Oh yeah... 4 years of trying and we are going for IUI (again) on my next cycle.

[Karen Nelson]

My husband and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary in December. We discovered early in our marriage that due a botched hernia surgery when my husband was 6 years old, we wouldn't become parents naturally. It was then that we decided that the costs involved in adoption, and my hubby's feelings regarding invitro, children would not be a part of our family. I feel blessed to be with my soulmate and we have 4 very special "furbabies", but I do have days when I still feel the ache of never being pregnant, and of not knowing what being a Mom and sharing the parenting role with my hubby would be like. I am very happy to have found this group and I look forward to making long-lasting friendships with others that can relate.

[Jeannie Johnston]

Karen - We have VERY similar stories. My husband has absolutely no sperm count - at all. We also found out early on and are resolved to enjoy each other void of children. :) We do have 4 furry kids too and I absolutely have days when I long for the "could have been". :) I'm always here if you need to talk and thank you for sharing such a personal part of yourself with us.

Karen Nelson said:

My husband and I will be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary in December. We discovered early in our marriage that due a botched hernia surgery when my husband was 6 years old, we wouldn't become parents naturally. It was then that we decided that the costs involved in adoption, and my hubby's feelings regarding invitro, children would not be a part of our family. I feel blessed to be with my soulmate and we have 4 very special "furbabies", but I do have days when I still feel the ache of never being pregnant, and of not knowing what being a Mom and sharing the parenting role with my hubby would be like. I am very happy to have found this group and I look forward to making long-lasting friendships with others that can relate.

[Lily - TheInfertileMind.com]

I see this discussion has been going on for some time so I have no idea if anyone will read it. My husband and I have been through 2 miscarriages several years ago and decided to not pursue biological children earlier this year. I've tried leading a support group, which helped me reach my decision but it became too hard because everyone else still wanted babies. I thought I found someone like me, who was happy as is, and sure enough today I got an e-mail that she's pregnant. It just came at the wrong time.

I started a photography business several years ago and then have moved away from that. I outgrew it and got tired of taking pics of everyone else's kids. So, I started a new business with a partner. Now I just feel like all I do is cater to her schedule because she has two young kids. I'm a happy person and do everything I can to support others - kids or no kids - but feel so alone sometimes. Today is just particularly painful. I feel like I try so hard at everything and nothing seems to quite work out. I don't know what to do anymore. So, I'm here.

[Jeannie Johnston]

Lily:

Thank you so much for your honesty and for putting your feelings out like that. I completely understand where you are coming from. I am absolutely fine most of the time without children but every once in a while that female need rises up. I think it is totally normal and you're not alone. I try to hug my pets extra hard on days like that. Or I go up to Walmart and see the young moms having to deal with their little screamers and feel blessed!! :) LOL!!

Either way - I personally have tried to begin to embrace whatever I'm feeling at that moment in time. It's all part of who we are and as they say, "It's all good." Try to hang in there and know we're here if you need to talk. You sound like an awesome lady.

[Lily - TheInfertileMind.com]

Thank you for responding - it's just nice to know someone understands my feelings! Thank you for making this page available. I'll definitely participate and offer what I can. And I loved your suggestion of going to the store and watching moms with their screaming kids - that made me laugh. I'm also a big animal person and spoil my beagle rotten.

Jeannie Johnston said:

Lily:

Thank you so much for your honesty and for putting your feelings out like that. I completely understand where you are coming from. I am absolutely fine most of the time without children but every once in a while that female need rises up. I think it is totally normal and you're not alone. I try to hug my pets extra hard on days like that. Or I go up to Walmart and see the young moms having to deal with their little screamers and feel blessed!! :) LOL!!

Either way - I personally have tried to begin to embrace whatever I'm feeling at that moment in time. It's all part of who we are and as they say, "It's all good." Try to hang in there and know we're here if you need to talk. You sound like an awesome lady.

[Jeannie Johnston]

LOL! Glad I could make you laugh. :) That's a good thing.

Animals are great! Spoil my 4 rotten!!! They claw to get away! :)

Lily - TheInfertileMind.com said:

Thank you for responding - it's just nice to know someone understands my feelings! Thank you for making this page available. I'll definitely participate and offer what I can. And I loved your suggestion of going to the store and watching moms with their screaming kids - that made me laugh. I'm also a big animal person and spoil my beagle rotten.

Jeannie Johnston said:

Lily:

Thank you so much for your honesty and for putting your feelings out like that. I completely understand where you are coming from. I am absolutely fine most of the time without children but every once in a while that female need rises up. I think it is totally normal and you're not alone. I try to hug my pets extra hard on days like that. Or I go up to Walmart and see the young moms having to deal with their little screamers and feel blessed!! :) LOL!!

Either way - I personally have tried to begin to embrace whatever I'm feeling at that moment in time. It's all part of who we are and as they say, "It's all good." Try to hang in there and know we're here if you need to talk. You sound like an awesome lady.